What is your best advice to someone with these issues? Only serious advice, NO SARCASIM is welcomed.?

She has very low self-esteem, and below are some of the things that have caused her to be low in her feelings. (SHE HAS BEEN OVERWEIGHT SINCE SHE WAS 5 YRS OLD) (SHE HAS NEVER HAD HER MONTHLY PERIOD IN HER LIFE, SHE HAS PCOS-polycystic ovarian syndrome) (SHE HAS FACIAL HAIR LIKE A MAN AND IT IS SO BAD THAT SHE HAS TO SHAVE IT OFF, HAS HAIR ON HER CHEST TOO) (SHE HAS NEVER FILLED OUT IN HER BREAST AREA, SHE HAS SOME, BUT NOT LIKE A 33 YR OLD ADULT SHOULD HAVE) These are the things that have caused like a tragedy in her life, she has no interest in most things out here in the world, she don't care about music, movies, going places, she would rather stay in doors because she always has to shave her face to go out in public. But she does care about love, she has a very loving heart that is so full of yearning. I love her so much, what can I do to help her?What is your best advice to someone with these issues? Only serious advice, NO SARCASIM is welcomed.?
You are right, your friend';s low self esteem stems from her health issues. I am not a Dr but am a trained nurse. Its sounds like she has a hormonal imbalance and this has resulted in the symptoms you describe. i.e no periods, body and facial hair, obesity, and poly cystic ovaries. Her periods don't present as ovualation does not occur.





Your friend needs to see a Dr for initially a series of blood tests and then depending on those results she will need a referral to see a endocrinologist and/or a gyneacologist.





You can only advise and support her to do this but at the end of the day IT IS HER DECISION. She has to take ownership of her own health and her body. You are a true friend to her.


Good luckWhat is your best advice to someone with these issues? Only serious advice, NO SARCASIM is welcomed.?
Urge her to see a doctor ... maybe even a specialist, like an endocrinologist. PCOS is very common and there are medications that can correct it and make a huge difference in her life. Her insurance will cover it too.
Maybe you dont know but the learning colleges give facials WAXING,,,Hair cuts etc. waxing w/last a lot longer than shaving. I am overweight also. I say if people wont know me or look at me on the inside, then its not going to keep me awake at night. The colleges charge a very small fee for their services. Plus its fun to go there. Good luck---Mary
Take her out to a spa place. Everyone loves to be pampered like a queen. They do everything there from facials, baths, bronzing, waxing, wraps. Pretty much anything to put a smile on your face and best of all it might do some good for her, and to let her know she is very beautiful person inside and out, no matter what.
all you can do is give your love and support. that will have to be enough
let me start by saying you are very sweet to care as you do I have not quite had all the problems she unfortulety has but I do suffer from some and your being there for her like you are is one of the best things you can do to show her just how much you care I was very lucky to have that as well and I really appreciate every one that helped me along the way perhaps deeply she really does care about other things just has a hard time because of what society thinks she needs to put that aside, if people don't like it they don't have to look they have the problem not her she needs to show them she is stronger than them and go out there and face the world not leave it behind because there are really good people out there just waiting to have someone like her in there lives just look and what she has in you sorry I could not be of more help I just had to tell you how special I believe both of you to be
Hi you say that you love her is that as a friend or more don't know if you are male or female friend,any maybe her doctor can help with female hormone tablets that may help but even if the doctor can't help thank god for the computer as there are a lot of people that like people on the heavy side and there are some people that like their women hairy .There is someone for all of us.what ever your relationship to her it sounds like she has a good friend in you.Please feel free to mail me if you feel i can help you any way.Good luck
Encouragment is the best tool. Try to do more things with her and help her find jobs, go to school, etc... I think that recorpricating love and being more friendly makes the best thing. I know people with similar conditions and I talk to them. It is the best thing. And taking her places.
There's always room to help someone improve. it sounds like some of those issues can be fixed, for example take her to a spa so they can work on the facial hair, to make her look better. If she's overweight then offer to diet and exercise with her every now and then. She has low self esteem which will get better gradually as she sees the improvements. Tell her you think she's awesome. Be her friend and confidante. She'll get better, she just doesnt know where to start , thats all.
get her some really nice outfits with pad bra. Then shve her face









































GL!!
if you love her like you say be with her and help her through this try to convince her to go out no matter what other people think the other people dont feed her or give her money to live so she shouldnt worry and if she doesnt want to go out do something at her house that she likes!!! shes preety no matter what!!


GOODLUCK:)