What should I do? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?

This guy adores me for over three years. We never have sex because I want to wait until married. I moved to other states last year. He was depressed about our separation. He said, he will wait for us to be together.





In the past year, he wrote over 20 poems about how much he miss, loves, respect, and want to be with me. Although, he hooked up (had sex) with his friend who looks just like me. He said, he does not love her.





Recently, he wants to move on with his life without giving me any explanation---I respect his decision.





I love him very much and want him back in the future, but at the present time, I want to stay on my ground---accomplish my goals, get my education, and stay virgin until married.





Any advice or suggestion? Thank you so much.





P.S. He posted all the poems about us on his my space. He did not delete the poems. His status is still in a relationship. He may still love me. What do you think?What should I do? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Basically it's like this. If he still has things posted on myspace about you, the yeah he still cares about you. Myspace is like speed dating on drugs so a normal guy wouldn't turn anyone away by advertising about a girl unless he was emotionally attached. On the other hand, if it just says ';In a Relationship'; and there are poems up that he sent you, but there is no mention of YOU in particular...then watch him, it might be bull. BUT MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL IF HE CARES ABOUT YOU AS MUCH AS HE CLAIMS HE WOULD NEVER HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. PERIOD. If he loved you he would know how hard it is to find love, and he woulda waited.


I'm not saying to forget about him, give him a chance to show you he's for real. BUT DO NOT WASTE TIME ON A MAYBE. You are a very intelligent young lady who's looked past the norms in society and decided to save yourself and better yourself. Thats priceless. Keep doin what your doin, and I promise a great guy is gonna see you for who you are and you'll be fine. Hell it may even be this guy, but it might not, so invest all your time and energy into what you KNOW will be benificial. Yourself!What should I do? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
jeez, move on! you made your decision and as a result of that he made his...game over....theres enough men in this world for us girls not 2 frett over the ones that arnt interested (anymore),
Like you said, give him his space, and achieve your personal goals. If it was meant to be, it will happen. Good luck!
he seems to be mad about you and always thinking about you but maybe he doesnt know when you be able to get together he prob cant keep waiting around because it is killing him so he wants to move on he isnt giving an explanation because it hurt to much for him to tell you how much you mean to him i think you too need to talk even if its very hard ..x
move on he only wants one thing,he sounds like a control freak you can not have your cake and eat it and you are the cake.forget hin
move on darling,he had sex with his friend,if he really loved u that much he would have waited untill u were married as u said,i suggest u find someone that will not go off with any one else and who will truely love u hun,take care and i wish u all the best in the future..x
i think its good that you want to accomplish your goals and more power to you if you really wish to hold off sex 'til marriage, thats what i plan on doing...maybe he had sex with this girl to kinda picture what it would be like with you as stupid as it may sound and i do believe he loves you but come on, he's a man and men have those urges that some women just can't satisfy, i think this time away will do you both some good...when you go back if he truly loves you he will be there available for you...if he has found someone else he was probably not worth the wait anyway....as of now just take life as it comes...finish your education and worry about ur priorities....everything else will in time fall into place
Thats just wrong on your part to keep a guy waiting for 3 years, I would never do that! You need to move on with your life and let him move on with his.
Of Course he still loves you


You know How men can be





';Mind in there penis';


week moments have come upon him





I respect that you've made a personal or religious chioce to wait for sex with someone you love rather than someone you hardly know how most people do these days.


I think you should talk to him


Just say you want it back to serious


but no pressure and if he cant respect your dissicion for no sex before marriage then he's gonna have to Lump it isn't he





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forgive me, he hasnt got over you, you havnt let go of him,, give it a whirl, how many times will u see he's a looser etc by other people friends and family alike, its your decision, do what's in your heart, good luck
the simple answer is that you should let him really know how much you love him and if after that he still doesn't want you, you've got to let him be. on the sex issue i think if he really loves you and is planing his future with u, he will wait no matter how long. and since he has been slleping with his ';friend'; at this stage of the relationship, what gives you the assurance that he won't break your heart by cheating on you. I am advicing you to love with your eyes open.
I think THAT'S SWEET GIVE EM A CHANCE
hi im kayleigh im 14 i dont know much about relationships hehe but i like to help people so i just thought i would give some advice well i think you have done the right thing acheive your goals it was absolutely wrong for him to have sex with someonelse he should have respected your decision about having sex after marriage.i think you are doing the right thing well done :D:D:D:D:D im proud of you if i was you i wouldnt go back to him but its your life :D:D:D:D oh well byexx
have you ever heard the saying


if its true love let it go


and if its really that tru it will come back to u


just let it go mama
leave well alone.if he couldn't respect you enough before jumping into bed with another girl then he's not the worth the hassle.
I say quit jerking him around. It sounds like he spilled his heart out to you and you aren't even giving him the time of day. He may still love you but i'm pretty sure he's given up. Soon he'll move on to someone who will not continue to break his heart.
your being played. but if i have any thing to say its keep your goals in mind. don't let any thing come between you and your future. if he can't take you for who you are, and want to be, let him go, there are plenty of fish in the sea, if he says he loves you now and has sex with other people, what do you think its going to be like IF you were to get married? think he'd change? probably not. but as long as you keep letting him, he's going to continue to try to convince you. keep standing your ground, stay a virgin, meet someone who cares about you and your goals, and future, don't hold out on someone who doesn't!
Possibly he still does, but he will not wait forever. You have your own priorities which he is not part of, so he may end up married while he waits for you.
hi ya how long do you want this guy to wait after all he has been waiting over 3 yrs and he has told you how he loves you so you say you love him but i don't think so as you are very busy with your goals%26amp; education and so on do the right thing let him get on with his life tell him how happy you are for him and that you will allways be friends and when you have what you want in life look for a new relationship
';Look at a copy of his medical charts.';





';Having sex with someone else, ain't 'IN LOVE' with you.';





';Get back together with him, and still don't give in to his need


for sex, he'll do it again. Next time, he won't tell you about it.';
I know you said you want to wait and get your education and that, which is reasonable by all means but maybe you should think if you really do love him that much you should do something about it sooner rather than later. What would you do if he moves on and finds someone else? You may leave it too late. He obviously cares a lot about you but maybe by putting it off you'll regret it in the future.


Education and your life means a lot to you but it seems like you found an awsome guy. How many guys now days wait for sex until after marriage? That's not a very big number. He respects you fully and really cares about you but he can't wait forever, he needs to move on.


If you're really serious about this guy I say give it a go with him, doesn't mean you have to stop all your ambitions. He's very understanding by the sounds of it. You can have it all you know.


I wish you all the best


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