Should I call it quit? 10 points for the best advice.?

My boyfriend is every women dream. He is very smart (going to law school), tall (6'2''), sporty (college football player), good looking, etc. ...





Well, he has his problems. He does not like to show his feelings (to me), very egocentric, very stubborn, very short temper, and act baby sometimes, etc.





In the past 3 years, we don't get along very well. We almost break up two times. The only thing that keep us going is we have a very strong physical connection (lust%26amp;love)





I am tired of all the dramas and want to leave him. To be honest, I am hanging on because I afriad I could not find any better guys.





I know, I am stupid.





What do you think? Thank you so much for your help.





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Sorry for the spellings and grammar ---English is my second language.Should I call it quit? 10 points for the best advice.?
You should never call yourself stupid.


And don't ';over-value'; a person you are having a relationship with. Value yourself first, last, and always, because at the end of the day you are responsible for yourself.





One big problem is while you are waiting for him to ';grow up,'; you're missing out on dating, knowing and possibly finding a much nicer guy who will put you first in a relationship.


The important thing is to run your own life, and let him make his own decisions. If he meets YOUR standards of behavior, you will date him. If he doesn't, you won't. You must make the standards, because he will not. He may find it impossible to grow up or be more considerate.


But there are many great people out there, and you won't find them unless you start looking.


Handsome is as handsome does---if he doesn't treat you right, he's ugly and stupid, no matter what his grades are.


But you have to demand good treatment, or you won't get it.Should I call it quit? 10 points for the best advice.?
There are no perfect people... you must decide if the positives outweigh the negatives. When you say you want to leave him, but are afraid... I recommend you get a book called ';Too Bad To Stay, Too Good To Leave.'; It helps people with just this type of decision.





I hope it is printed in your native language, that would be best.
first of all, just because he is good looking, doesn't mean he is every womans dream. he has many bad character traits, and if you were cobsidering leaving him, do it, and find a new guy.
Hmmm.. Well you see - you telling that you are affraid that you will not find someone else... For me it means that you don't like your boyfriend and thinking about others... It is doesn't metter that he is extremely cute or smth like this - the only thing is metter - is your feelings. So if you don't love him - do not be affraid! You will find the one who will be better then he is :)
Don't think of it as finding someone better think of finding someone different. The next person you meet may not have all the good qualities your current bf has but hopefully they have a better personality. Maybe suggest taking a break from each other or go to couples counseling. Make him realize you're not happy with the way things are and the two of you need to work on the relationship. if he doesn't want to try to improve things or if the counseling doesn't help then you need to move on. Don't worry about your spelling and grammar, English is my only language and I can't get it right.
I only agree with two of the statements you made. No, actually one.
I challenge with you , You will not quit him and he will not also quit You. You two will be like this This is nothing but psychological dependents. This is true love. You will continue. Even if you quit once again you will join with him, and the same case for your friend also. Made for each other. All the best Yours VRVRAO
Have you talked to him about this in a calm and caring manner? Maybe there's some deeper meaning to all of this and you just need to discuss it with him when both of you are in a nice mood. Just make sure to show NO hostility towards him, otherwise the ego will kick in, and you want to avoid that. If that doesn't work, go to a marriage counselor, that's what they're there for! They will be more then willing to help you and your husband work all this out.


And if the worse is to happen and nothing changes, then you may need to detach from him. But do whatever you can to avoid such an outcome.





I wish you two the best of luck!
No, you're not stupid. Hanging on because you may not find someone better is a semi-logical move.





The best idea, however, would be to let him go. Pretty much anyone would be better if they loved and cared for you as you are...not for a peice of meat. (Excuse the expression.)





Gently tell him that you're ready to move on and that you can still remain friends.





Trust yourself...you're ready for someone new.





Good luck!
the way you enumerate his character leads me to believe that he is ';not'; every womans dream. remember that physical attributes comes second when you want a lasting relationship. it is the ';character'; that counts. if you want to settle for less, go ahead and stick around. but remember that if you love him, you have to accept him for what he is.
sorry to say this,dump the immature baby,there are better men out there,take a little time for yourself then start looking


for someone else. GOOD LUCK.
i would say just because he is good looking doesnt make him a good guy. try to find someone who has a good personality.
Well that depends on your definition of a ';better'; guy. Academic /attributes wise he's a pretty rounded off challenge, but though if your talking about personality, I do think he sucks, bad.


';we have a very strong physical connection (lust%26amp;love)'; - excused for the lusty part, but love? You're here, so a ';strong love connection'; statement's a void. Point here, do you like him alone, his attributes, or are you actually afraid that you can't find a better man - so you stayed by him. I wouldn't have any comments if you chose either of the first 2, but if it's because you can't find anyone better - well I don't think that's(you) worth a dime.


Ask yourself, then judge yourself. (:
Go on with your life. YOu can never have a successful marital life with him.trust me. You will get someone better. You better get married soon. and be honest to your husband. Try not to tell your husband about your past. now if you want to say that you want to be sincere with your husband or to that person entering into your life as he shared his past with you so PLEASE open your mind and think wisely. NO man in this world can happily welcome a wife who had a physical relationship with someone. HE might agree and say that it doesn't bother to him whatever your past may be, but somewhere inside his heart he will have this feeling that he is having a life partner who had a relationship etc etc.





so u better get married soon to someone else. I'm sorry but as you have mentioned the other qualities of this guy that he short tempered, stubborn and above all egocentric, then believe me he will cause nothing but many troubles and grieves to your bond.





Sister~!
You are the one who needs to grow up. You do not need this baby, especially if he is treating you this way.


Dump this sorry excuse for a human and go out and get yourself another, better guy.


As far as you language goes, I think you are too lazy to use the check spelling button, like the other morons out there.
Let him go and move on. It is apparent that you are not in love with this man. You have got to be in love with the person you spend your life with. The sex will be great so don't think about what you are giving up.