I want to move on..10 points for the best advice. Thank you?

I was in love with his guy for over three years. Unfortunately, it is over because we are in different states (long distance), have different goals, and hardly communicate with each other.





I knew we do love and care about each other a lot and it hurts to end up this way. Please help me. I want to move on, but I think about him 24/7. What should I do? I need to move on. I cannot stand the heart broken feelings anymore..





Thank you very muchI want to move on..10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
The end of a relationship, is somewhat like a death - you have to go through the bereavement and grieving process in order to be able to move on. This takes time, your time. No-one else will know how you feel; they are not you!





Unlike an actual ';death';, time is a great healer, and you will eventually move on. Take one day at a time. You will have good days, bad days and ';bloody awful days';, (the ones where you probably feel that your world has fallen apart and what's the point of going on';). From the way you have written, I would imagine that every day is a ';bloody awful'; one, but, and believe me, I do know, it does get better. Without actually noticing it at the time, gradually a ';bad'; will creep in, then a ';good day';, and somehow and in some way, the good days have become more and the bad and bloody awful ones less and less.





I answered one of your other questions; the one on how to find your ';Mr. Perfect';! Come on, where's the strong, independent girl gone? See, there is a soft and vulnerable side to you too; you have feelings, you are a woman, you are a human being!





Get your make-up on, get dressed up and go out with your femal (and male) friends. No matter how lousy and down you feel, wear the ';painted smile';. Don't sit there all alone moping, and don't ';bore'; your pals to death with your tears or ';woe is me'; attitude. They will only put up with that for so long!





It was a long distance relationship, you had different goals and hardly communicated. It's hard, but this relationship just wasn't meant to be. If it was, it wouldn't have ended. If it had been meant to last, distance wouldn't have been a problem you wouldn't have overcome. I've never been to America, in fact I'm not a travelled person, but from what I've seen and heard, in the States, people jump on and off planes for work and social reasons, like the Brits, (or most of the ones I know anyway), jump on and off buses! Americans will jump on a plane and have a 2 hour flight for a meeting or an evening with a partner, relative etc. You were different people who had their sights set in different directions.





A broken heart is like any other ';illness'; - you have to go through the illness and likewise, the recovery. Sometimes slowly and painfully, but you will and do heal.





Stop your tears and dry your eyes. You've put yourself through alot of hard work to get yourself through school and get your degree, you'll get through this. Promise.





Take care, you're a good and caring girl and you will find someone who has their sights and heart set in the same direction as yourself.


XI want to move on..10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I'm sorta in a situation similar. With a few exceptions





-I'm infactuated with a guy


-We've known each other for less than a year.


-We haven't taked much since he went back to school. We've hung out when he came home last month. But thats it.


-He's 3hours away





Anyways. I know how it feel to want someone and can't really be with them at the current time. But the more you hang on, the more heart broken you'll be. You can get him off your mind alittle by doing things and being around the people that make you happy. Like hanging out with you family and friends more. Going to the mall, working out at the gym, going to a party or any social event, etc. Right now you need to focus more on you. Cause i'm pretty sure he's moved on with another girl. And you need to find another guy. More the reason why you should get out more and fun. You never know who you'll meet! =]]








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You have to realize that you are your own person without him in your life.


You have your own goals and dreams, and any relationship is just an added plus, not a need.





Work towards your goals(and if you dont have any, make some). Put all your energy into that instead of wasting it thinking about the past.





The future is all yours!!!





Best wishes!
You're in love with a guy you never get to see, can't have a conversation with, and have nothing in common. I don't think you are in love. I think you are just lonely. Quit thinking about him. Get out of the house. Met new people. Find a new hobby. Party time. I got to get you off my mind. It's party time.
Then you write a letter you will never send, explaining how you feel about him and that you will think of him, but you must move on
the same thing happened to me and i couldnt stand it anymore. i met new people and there just happened to be a guy that i liked alot and i moved on with him


but if u dont wanna move on, just get his email or something and go visit him or something


but u have to consider your other chances that u problably have been ignoring so move on!


also consider that your guy might have moved on too


hope i helped!
im kinda in that situation right now...its hard to move on and tell your heart to stop loving someone...for me i just have to tell myself i cant keep putting myself through the heartache of reliving the memories and wishing we were togather I have to keep my self busy in my work and to go out and meet new people to get my mind off the past and into the present and the future...u cant live in the past ur just wasting your time and running in place..its the past for a reason. I know it sounds so much easier than it is...the saying is correct though time does heal all wounds even though it doesnt feel like it with each passing day it does get easier...keep your friends close they are a great way to keep u occupied and to help you move on.. even this sight helps..helps by getting your mind off things by trying to help others with their issues and sometimes by reading our own advice to someone helps it sink in to us.......
Only you know in your heart what is right for you to do. If you really love him and you think packing up your life as you know it now to be near him is worth it, then by all means do it. If not, then don't. Sometimes if you really love someone, it's best to set them free.
I can understand what you are going through because this year my guy moved to GA someone where in Woodstock.


But anyways you have options!





A.If you really love with him(And he loves you), I say you should go back and find him and be with him. You might be able to keep your goals as long as you find the same stuff in his area.





B. The hardest thing.....I had trouble with this....getting over him. It takes along time, but you could try to find someone that is better then the guy you known for 3 years.


You might want to put pictures,movie tickets,etc of you and him in a box. Getting rid of the close you wore when he was around. You might want to also think that if he really did love you he would of stayed with you. I know it is hard right but it might be the only way of not thinking about him as much.


I feel your pain and I wish you Good Luck.
to be honest theres nothing you can do but stay away for sad songs and love movies. may be you just need to cry to get it out of your system. there nothing you can do about it hes gone and if its ment to be he'll come back into your life.
Honestly speaking if you guys are all done and need to forget about past and move on ... best way is get going and mingle for a new relationship / friends.





Good luck.
slowly start going out with friends and have fun - distance (your mind, not physical distance) and time are the only things that will help you move on. You dont need to forget him, always keep a small memory, but you need to move on. piece the heart back together with time, friendship and eventually a new love...
Well from friends it's hard they know. You just need to find someone else. You can't be with him forever and you need to find someone to comfort you. I can make an epigram of just about anything unless really freaking serious. I use to want this guy to like me but he likes this other chick and we don't hang out unless on the computer when we are like best friends. You need to find a hobby or something like me for exapmle i take long walks to get my mind off of him. All you need to do is get a hobby.
Oh friend. Now your just going to give up on everything that you really and truly believe in. How does that make you feel. To me your just a quitter and quitters never win. Don't take it the wrong when I say that, but you should really think about it and never give up on the things you love so dearly and keep very close to the heart. Think about it. Don't let a little thing like that get in the way.Good Luck and God Bless!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have been there kid. My suggestion to you is occupy your time with work, studies, or some activities. I do not know what type of hobby you have but let me tell you if you commit extended time in your hobby you could become world renowned in it. I use to play POLO in college and when I had a girlfriend that try to hurt me and started going out on me with other guys I dedicated myself to POLO and my studies. We were champs for several years in POLO and my grade point average started to increase proportionately with all the time I had to dedicate to my studies. I have prospered in life by LEAPS and BOUNDS since I took that attitude and a NO PRISONERS ATTITUDE towards dating or love. You will do just find in life he isn't the only guy on earth. You are the limited commodity on the exchange of love NOT HIM !!!! GOOD LUCK !!!!
i have an idea of what you are going through having been really good friends with this girl for 3 years in college...now that we graduated i havent even spoken to her (for differnt reasons than yours) but it hurts. I too think of her every day. I am happiest when I am not thinking about her, hanging out with my friends or spending time with my family, maybe just spending time with myself at the gym or something...anything to get my mind off of her. So I recomend the same to you...go out with friends, family, listen to mucis, watch television, anything so you arent thinking about this guy. Maybe for you, you may even want to get involved in another relationship, but dont ruh it as it wouldnt be fair to you or him if you did that and didnt have your heart into that relationship. Keep your mind occupied as much as you can doing what you can. The more you think about this guy, the more it hurts, but at the same time, talk out how you feel. It makes you feel better to realease that energy inside you that needs to be let out. So, talk to your friends, fam, or even a professional doctor about it. best of luck!
Try to forget about him. Hang out with your friends, exercise, enjoy your hobbies. You will probably meet a better guy anyways.
The two of you did the right thing. Love is not enough to build a relationship or a family. Leave this in the past and wish each other well. Focus on your goal because it is important enough for you to give up this relationship. Go out and meet new friends. Get involved in the community by doing volunteer work.
it may not be much help but i think you should move on with another guy because yeah like you like him and all, but he and you are so far away. some say that love grows stronger by the distance, and i agree, but its not likely you'll see him again, so find another guy thats like him.
I know what that's like. You can love some one so totally that you can't imagine not seeing him and having him in your life.


People change, circumstances change, even goals change.





Sometimes you can long for someone so bad that you can't bear it. I have been there, not so long ago.





I had to leave someone I loved very much, we were so much in love and got married. It was like the best dream you can think of when we would wake up every morning just ecstatic to see each other.





We were married for years. Over time he became more and more abusive toward me. Finally, about 5 years ago, I knew I had to get out.





When I first left it felt really good to know that nobody was going to yell at me that day. I thought I would meet some one new, but as time went on...





I began to miss him very much, he was all I could think


of. We had kept in touch and were still friends.





I began being they way I used to be around him, helping him, encouraging him, doing all I could think of hoping we could work it out.





He did tell me he still loved me and was hoping there would be some way to get back together, but during this time I realized that he still yelled at me, he was not much interested in what I wanted or my feelings. I realized that we would both be miserable in just a few months.





So consider; you said you don't have the same goals, you don't communicate well together and distance really is a problem.





In a long term relationship communication is one of the most important factors that can be a source of tremendous stress.





Goals are less important but still a big one. For instance;





Graduating from college is important to one of you, and the other wants to be a musician who is on the road a lot.





One of you wants to settle down and have babies right away and the other doesn't even Like kids.





There would be only a slim chance of you being happy.





So look at it in these terms; would we be happy together in a few years?


Would you resent each other if one of you had to compromise more than the other?





You know the answer, so consider each day as an opportunity, make goals, dream dreams, make things happen in your life! You are young and free so go for it!
it happened to me 2 years ago...


what i did was i went to another place where my family is. (another country: new culture, new environment, new faces, lots of adventures %26amp; experience)


i stayed there for almost a year. my attention was caught with those new things so i easily forgot about him %26amp; moved on.
just move on
The only way I truly get over someone is to find someone new.


Also staying busy helps a lot. Especially going to the gym
All you can do is move closer to him or start your life over.
Just keep telling yourself, there are other guys out there that might be better for you. Trust me, long distance relationships DO NOT work very well!!
Another dude is NOT the answer. What you really need to do and I cannot stress this enough, is figure out YOU. YOUR hobbies, YOUR interests, YOUR carreer dreams ......all the things that make you, well, you. Engross yourself in things that interest you that you always wanted to do. Take Karate, go skydiving, learn to play an instrument,......ANYTHING!! Go back to college, just do things that keep your attention and involve being around lot's of different kind of people. You need more than a friend right now, you need LOTS of friends!! Don't try to replace your B/F it never works. And when you ARE ready to date again, date a few different boys at the same time but just as friends, no sex or kissing, and be open about the fact that you go on dates with other people. This is the best way I can think of, most of all, Be Kind to yourself.