Please help? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?

How do you know you are/were in love? How do you know it is not something else like lust, adore, care for? How can you be out of love?





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I ask this question because I believe thinsg are relative. There are no absolute answer of love and relationship. Agree or disagree?





For example,





A and B have been dating for 8 months. They think they have dated for a long times.





On the other hand,





C and D have been dating for 2 years. They think they are still new to the relationship.Please help? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I'm getting married in 2 months. My fiance %26amp; I both can't believe that we've only known each other for 2 years.





I guess all I can offer is my experience. I thought I was in love before %26amp; in hindsight it's ridiculous. All of my relationships were lacking something. There was a lot of fighting, no trust, a lot of drama %26amp; awkwardness. I always felt like I was forcing it to work. It didn't flow very freely.





When I met my fiance, I thought . . . wow, he's just like me. He cares about the same things, he has morals, he doesn't cheat on people, he isn't fake, he's upfront, he answers questions quickly, he's polite to waiters, he has class, he can discuss politics without blowing a fuse, he's smart, totally open, had nothing to hide. I ALWAYS felt that my ex's had something to hide. I could just tell.Please help? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Being in love is the most wonderful thing to have. It feels like your on a cloud and no one else is there but the two of you. The reason why c and d feel like there still in a new relationship is because there in so much love with each other. If both of you are really in love with each other then you well know it like you well feel like you got butterfly's in your stomach. You can't stop thinking about that person plus you can't wait to see them again and when you two make love oh man it feels like the most hot romantic thing to have that you can't stop wanting it all the time.
Everybody is different, some people date for six months and then get married and some date for 2 years and get married. In order for it to last, not to matter how long you dated, if have to have a give and take marriage and the both of you have to be committed to each other.When you fall in love with somebody, you'll know it. You'll want to do things for that person, take care of that person and give whatever it takes to make that person happy.
A%26amp; B probably based their relationship on physical issues from the begining and now they are bored from each other because there was no basis of what they are really to each other than great in bed! ANd this fades away after a while. Meanwhile, C%26amp;D took their time to know each other adn hav ecommon groud. THey are able to go without sex adn yet have good time with each other and share things with each other adn because they are into each other they allow each other to grow thus finding new things about themselves as individuals and as a couple, THey tend to try new things and make their life interesting becaus ethey took their time to build a relationship on mor ethan physical attraction.


Hope this helps!
This says it all, and I know some people may think it's a silly answer, but it really is true. Think about each line. It actually sums up a lot of what people have already posted, and it's been there all along:





';LOVE is patient and kind;


LOVE is not jealous or boastful;


it is not arrogant or rude.


LOVE does not insist on its own way;


it is not irritable or resentful;


it does not rejoice at wrong,


but rejoices in the right.


LOVE bears all things, believes all things,


hopes all things, endures all things.


LOVE never ends 鈥?quot;


1 Corinthians 13:4-8a, 13





Basically, love is mature. It is calm. You truly care for the other person in every way, not in the ways you think you can change them or because of what they can do for you, or how they make you feel. You just want them to be happy above all things and you guard their trust in you with all your heart.
Relationships are like people, no two are alike. How many stories have we heard of 2 ppl meeting and within days or weeks get married and have a happy life for years. Or others who wait for years to marry only to divorce within a couple years.


I feel if you love someone they are all you think about, they are the first person you think of when you have news to share. They are the last thought you have before closing your eyes at night and the first thing we think of when we wake up.


So guess I agree with you that there is no absolute....Just know when we find that true love we must cherish it and respect it and never take it for granted as we never know what tomarrow will bring
I knew I was in love when we had our first fight, and I didn't want him to leave. I know that sounds strange, but you are supposed to be best friends with the person you marry, and the fact that the only person I wanted when I hurt that badly (it was a big fight) was my husband.


Everyone has a different definition of love and how they know they are in love. It is relative, but love is a universal concept.
Depends on the people. If two people are mentally ready for a long term relationship, ie marriage, a few months is all they need to know if they can and will love that person forever.





My parents met on Halloween and were married in March and have been together for 41 years. Not all loving years, but they were years nonetheless.
Love is the best feeling in the world, no matter if it is with a partner, a child, family, or friends.





When you are IN LOVE, you will know it. You will still get butterflies even after days/weeks/months/years and it will never go away. You would do anything in the WORLD to be with the person you love, and they would do the same. When you are sad, they are sad, when you are hurt, they are hurt, etc. Love is an amazing thing, and for the ones who experience it...they wouldn't give it up for ANYTHING =]
I think you have to search deep inside yourself to find the answer to whether you are/were in love. It's a question that can be hard to answer depending on your emotional state. But I know mutual respect is one of the most important things in a relationship along with the obvious ones.
man only look for lust, because nature has made them for reproduction activity, as a result a man can father 100 children, but a woman can't bear 100 children. So generally love is only from women, and as it is - one side love is not exactly a love, its just an attraction.
when in love, the world just seems like a better place.


you embrace every second of every day.





being in love is like enjoying a tastyy meal. you consume it with every inch of your being. texture, smell, tast, appearance etc.





your seances take over and you consume every part of a person. smile, eyes, hair, skin, smell, hands, lips, touch etc.





And I agree.
Hope--I had somewhat similar questions and i have learned something...when I was 14 i started dating this guy my first BF we experienced teenage love...my family went through divorce and things just couldn't work out at the time....we hooked up again when i was 21 but seeing other people...i moved away 10 years came back...and here we are again except i know its LOVE...the lust part comes in when there is no self control regarding your values, beliefs and you are not honoring your self in the relationship that's why AB may be closer than CD...honoring self and relationship....hope this works...
Lasting marriages and relationships are about what faults you can tolerate. Everyone will do things to annoy you, but is it something you can look past or something you can not live with. Find someone you can tolerate cause no one is perfect!
Love is different for everyone. The key is finding that special someone who would describe it the same way you do. For my husband and I love is respect, trust, and knowing that there is nobody else out there who makes you feel wonderful.
love is a very fickle thing it is different for everybody, i think it starts with phsyical attraction, turns to lust, and then eventually love
If you can avoid the following: wanting what you are not prepared to give.


Then you will be fine in love. Otherwise your not ready and don't know that love is about sacrifice.
because it will be something you have never experienced...felt...endured with ANYONE else..you can sense if they are hurting or not hurting





i was 40 when I finally found that out..lot of toads before the prince